That song sums up what I am talking about today. Fellatio and cunnilingus are oral sex acts performed for the purpose of providing pleasure. And what joyous pleasure they can provide….oh, sorry. I had a flashback. Focus….
While having a girl’s night out, we somehow always find ourselves discussing topics of sex, the latest guy craze or sex flop. One topic that I always find interesting is that of oral pleasure. What I’ve noticed is that most younger guys tend to err on the side of NOT wanting to perform it on their girls, yet wanting to enjoy the pleasure themselves. My key word was most, so don’t go jumping down my throat because I did not generalize. Most older guys don’t seem to have a problem at all going down. They understand a happy woman in bed means everyone in bed is happy – I can dig that!
The problem I have is with not wanting to return the favor. Don’t be afraid to taste the cupcake. If you fear it might be unclean, you probably shouldn’t be trying to sleep with her in the first place. But I’m not judging. Always do a ‘finger test’ before you put your mouth anywhere near a woman’s cupcake. Don’t be obvious about it, but make it seem like you are feeling how moist she is. Be slick about how you get a whiff of your finger and taste it, so she isn’t suspicious. If anything – and I mean anything – seems funky or off about it, act like you’re having a seizure or your body is being taken over by aliens and get out of there! That hoe is nasty!
The first time a guy when down on me I was so new. I had no skills, I didn’t know what was going on, I was caught off guard – but my body quickly caught me up to speed on how to enjoy it. So ladies, hopefully you get someone who knows what they are doing. If not, here are a few tips I have passed on to gently lead them in the right direction:
- Don’t try to stab her with your tongue like it’s a dagger. Lick her like an ice cream cone melting on a hot summer day. Don’t let any of the juices spill all over.
- Try writing your name or a love letter with your tongue. It causes different movement and keeps from getting routine.
- You really don’t need to make any eye contact. How about you focus on what you’re doing and we’ll focus on climbing up the wall if you’re doing it right?
For my ladies, now that we have the guys ready and willing to step their game up, I need you to be ready, too. It’s time to embrace your inner Lil Kim. Don’t be afraid of the mic. As I have mentioned to the men, I will say the same to you; inspect whatever you put into your mouth.
Our skills can lead to a pleasurable experience and also safe sex. Cosmo has a great article on how to slide a condom on with your mouth as well as other ideas and tips. I will only list a few here for your convenience.
Have fun and enjoy one another. The balance is about what is comfortable for you. It should be about the chemistry between the two of you and what you are trying to get out of it. If you feel you may have regrets the next day, by all means don’t be forced into something you don’t want to. Talk about it; openly discuss what you’re thinking and feeling.
Above all else, practice safe sex! And have fun!
For more information on oral pleasure, browse the web or check out a book I found rather interesting on Amazon by Emily Dubberley.