The Truth About Fairytales

The truth about love is….that it is not easy. If it were self-help books on how to find the love you deserve, sad love songs and relationship counselors would not make a profit because there would be no need. However, anything worth having should never come ‘easy’ per se. Now if you are trying to tear down a family to be with someone or putting yourself or any children in jeopardy for this relationship, some reevaluations may be in order.

Little girls grow up watching Disney and believing Prince Charming will come riding over a hill to rescue them and they will live happily ever after. After numerous heartaches and kissing too many frogs I grew to resent Disney. Until I sat back one day and contemplated the bigger picture.

Ideally, when it is real love, you will live happily ever after. Granted, there will be bad days – then there will be even worse than those bad days – but two people who are truly meant to be together will find the strength to battle them out together. When you look at photo albums and throwback Thursday pictures, you aren’t reminiscing on the bad moments in time; you are recalling those cherished moments that bring a smile to your heart. That is what real love is about. Learning to adjust the sail through the rocky seas of life and having someone to enjoy the sunset with. Forever.

Older couples who have been married 50+ years never say the road was easy. They also never say they regret any of the challenges they faced together either. Those challenges strengthened their love for one another and thus they have fulfilled reaching their ‘happily ever after’.

So many people treat marriage as the new dating and dating as casual sex. How is anyone ever to find what’s real in a world of immediate gratification? Love is about being selfless and wanting the best for someone else, even when there is no benefit for yourself. That requires respect. Dedication. Commitment. Perseverance. Trust. It needs a foundation where being vulnerable is embraced and not taken advantage of.

Our “What’s in it for me?” attitude has raped the very nature of what love is supposed to be. With children having children, who is mature enough to teach love and give love in the way it is intended to be expressed?

Relationships and sex will never fill the void of your empty spirit as long as material and superficial metaphors take the place of real love. Real love makes the ground shake. It causes the heavens to open. I’m quite sure someone finds a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow, or at least a midget.

Happily ever after isn’t about a fairy tale wedding. Plan for a marriage, not a wedding. The wedding is for family and friends to witness and be part of your union; at the end of the day it’s just you and the one you love. Going into debt, living outside of your means to put on a show won’t guarantee the two of you will make it to ‘ever after’. So look at the motive, the reason, for why you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. Divorce should not be an option unless it is life or death.

The thing about real love is….you cannot experience it until you understand what it means to love yourself. When you love yourself, you won’t allow yourself to be treated less than you deserve. You attract quality companions and you remove yourself from the childish games people play. There is no set age of discovery; it is based on when you are mentally and emotionally ready to actualize this.

Big Girls Need Love To

big girlMy dude. I know you see me over here. What? Did I blend in with the damn scenery? Were you put off by the fact that I actually ‘eat’ when I go out to dinner? Truth is, I’m not as invisible as you’d like to pretend I am.

Weight and physical beauty are relative; nothing is permanent about them. Getting to know the real me might uncover a real gem, or freak, if you took the time to look past all the ‘fluff’. By the way, ‘fluff’ ain’t so bad for trying to do some of those freaky things you want to do, say, when bones grinding on you just isn’t that appealing.

Sink your teeth in a juicy red apple. Now sink your teeth in a juicy blueberry. Not the same kind of result, huh? Not as satisfying? I’m not hating on my skinny girls, because my sister and close friends are a part of the itty bitty committee but I’m just saying don’t be so closed-minded about big girls.
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Everyone has their preference and I’m not knocking that but there are perks to having your big girl card. You know she’s always gonna want to feed you, especially after some good loving because she worked up an appetite. If you ever piss her off, food will usually calm her down and distract her enough for you to get away, food will probably be an added item to any foreplay, and you won’t have to always come up with places to eat because guarantee she knows all of the good ones and possibly has hook ups or discounts.

Big girls are more durable and won’t flinch at the first hint of escalated rough sex. Pause – I don’t mean lose your damn mind a choke anybody, that might get you shot. But ass smacking and pounding harder won’t be interrupted with whining and crying because something hurts. That’s what all of this padding is for!

Is It In Yet?

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No man wants to hear those words. Ever.

Men, hear me out for a minute. This is not gonna bash you; trust me. You’ve enjoyed the journey with me so far, right? Then have a little faith my friend. This is, however, going to require some assistance on your part, so please work with me.

Now ladies, I know you’ve hear the expression “It’s not about the size of the boat, but the motion in the ocean,” correct? To a large extent that is true. A man’s size in relation to the pleasure you experience is not exclusive to one another. Sometimes. Sometimes no matter how many tricks you toss, that little boat ain’t chuggin’ hard enough.

Sometimes it has a lot to do with positions. You may need to be creative. You may need to learn to use your hands more and your mouth. I’ve attached a few video’s below for a few ideas.

Sometimes it’s the man attached to the penis. Seriously. Ya’ll know what I’m talking about. He’s got all the right equipment and DOESN’T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH IT! This is the most frustrating thing I have ever experienced. I wanted to throat punch him. To make matters worse, he couldn’t even put the condom on right and it slipped off and I almost got pregnant off that wack sex! Talk about pissed……

Then there are those modest guys who aren’t packing too much so you don’t think too much about it until he had you sweat out your perm and got your makeup running like a raccoon. I think he felt like he had something to prove; he got hold of me and proved it. Until the sun came up. I couldn’t walk; I couldn’t talk that day. I was laying in bed holding myself after he left because he gave it to me so good.

One thing that helps, and this goes to any guy, is making sure your girl is taken care of. If she’s not trying to climb off the bed and get away from you then you need to put in some more work. Once she gets her, she will be more than willing to put in work or overtime for you. Trust me.

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It has been my experience that size does not matter, however that is just my opinion. My va-jayjay also isn’t so stretched out that it’s like throwing a hot dog down a hallway either. So there it is. I’d recommend doing some kegel exercises to strengthen the muscles down there if that is a problem you may suffer from. For guys, I suggest thinking outside of the box. Use various surfaces to give you the access you need to hit the right spot. A desk, table, counter top, couch, car, hood of a car, patio furniture – get creative. The possibilities are limitless.

Overall, don’t knock it until you try it. Enjoy 🙂

Whimsical Pleasures

I taste your lips in those intimate places;
Wrap my mind around you like silk sheets.
I adore you in spring time;
In fall you become a little too flaky for me.

I imagine being in yours arms is like a supernatural experience.
I yearn to feel our heartbeats in sync.

Joyous am I when I’m near you.
When the bitter taste of your goodbye doesn’t cripple me into non-existence.
I suppose you are better off just a dream.
When I awake I can write off your inconsistency as mere ficticious rambles of my imagination
And no true portrayal
Of the man I want you so desperately to be.


I once worked for this boss who liked to take long lunch breaks. Since she broke the rules a bit, she didn’t mind, if on occasion, we did the same.

I always pack my lunch and take it to work with me. On one particular day, I grabbed my lunch, got in my car and headed over to this guys house for my lunch break. (intermission: this could lead to a new Passion Chronicle…..) When I arrived, I saw his car in the driveway and when I got up to the door I noticed it was unlocked.

I headed inside and went straight to the back room in the corner on the left. When I opened the door, he was laying butt naked on the bed, ready and waiting. Now that’s my idea of hot and ready!

Have you ever had a quickie? I mean, you don’t have much time, so all the courtesies and cute playfulness is thrown out the window. It’s about getting down and dirty as quickly as possible, yet not ruining makeup, hair or wrinkling clothing so that you can get back to being professional in a snap. **Wearing skirts or dresses and bras that snap in the front makes this extra helpful ladies**
He and I had this scheduled lunch date every Tuesday and Thursday at 11:15 a.m. when none of his roommates would be home. I’d eat my lunch on the drive back to work while checking my hair in the rear view mirror for any fly aways or smeared lipstick. This schedule went on for months. What I loved was there was rarely any talking, any cuddling and spooning; it was raw, passionate, uninhibited, fun and uncomplicated. We were both seeing other people at the time and didn’t want feelings to get involved but couldn’t ignore the sexual chemistry between us.

Later we did end up dumping the people we were dating, but not for each other. We recognized early that the only thing good between us was the sex. I’m not quite sure why it ended, but it was an exciting experience to have lived.

If you are thinking, how can you find pleasure in quick sex? Trust me, you can. The exhilaration of it being forbidden and untraditional in the sense of what sex is about is what makes it so amazing. The adrenalin racing through your body and the thrill of doing something so racy in the daytime, on the couch, in the bathroom, in the car, on the counter, in the closet, or wherever you can get it will truly make you feel every bit of hot and steamy.

Check out Joel D. Block’s book Quickie’s You’ll Never Forget for some ideas. Let me know what you think and share some of your quickie success stories.